Understanding Dementia Behavior
Consequences of situation or peoples feelings
Actions to change behavior
1/20/17
Watching Potus sworn in.
She watched it 3 times over like it was the first time she ever saw it.
1/21/17
mom realizes we have new president
Trigger
2/4/2017
Making Tea
Reading directions
Behavior
Mom put water in a pan to boil it for tea.
Saw the pan on the stove, half the water boiled out.
Asked mom if she put the pan of water on.
Consequences
Mom embarress
Me fearful to leave mom for any amount of time.
Quilt for not realizing she used the stove vs microwave
Trigger 2/4/17
bad day?
Behavior frustrated,angry,
Consequences
Redirected to other things.
Calmed down.
What triggers hostility?
What type of Behavior
Consequences of situation or peoples feelings
Actions to change behavior
Trigger 2/5/17
bad day
Behavior
Confused, repeating things
Consequences
Stayed home from church
Missed it.
Mom didn’t know it was Sunday.
What triggers hostility?
What type of Behavior
Consequences of situation or peoples feelings
Trigger
I didn't go sit down with mom and Betty right away.
Talking to Jackie.
Behavior
Mom
Inrtrupted the grace at senior center
Consequences
She didn't notice it
Me slightly embarrassed
Helen smiled at me, brought. Comfort to me.
Answered mom. Then we all prayed
Trigger 2/21/17
mom woke up feeling sick, diahrea and nausea, i did notice she was
dizzy.
Consequences
She ate breakfast, took her meds, left her banana, decided to go back to bed.
When she woke back up, began to make her breakfast again. Sat down started eating
figured I would watch, not say anything. She went to take her pills. I had to show
her that she had already took them when she got up earlier.
Showed her pill container.
Called Jodi, discussed the purchase of a camera. Not to spy or babysit, To make sure that mom is safe when I go to the PO, Store or Senior Center to pick up meals.
She was onboard, and offered to purchase it.
Mom is so independent. Love that about her. I made promises to mom,
I intend to keep them. No Nursing or senior living HOME, No Reminding her that she has Alz. Remember that she will always loves me.
I had to go to the senior center,
to pick up dinner. Mom was sleeping, Figured i would go home for a few minutes.
Called Robert asked him if he would be willing to call mom. Told him she is not
feeling well. Didn't want to leave her by herself. If he could talk to her
than I would feel better about her safety. he accused me of deceiving mom.
I explained its getting harder to leave her home alone.
He was offended, that I was treating mom like a child. I explained that mom
has alz. I was not treating her like a child, Making sure she is safe. I asked if her was aware of that mom has alz? even knowing I had told him in the past.
guess rob, reached out to Jodi. told her He was not going to take my word that
mom has alz. she has never acted unusual on the phone, with him.
yesterday, mom asked rob the same questions that she asked the day before.
Unerstanding;;;;
Robert has not gripped reality. may never truly accept moms diagnoses. Not my best choice to call him. Caused havoc on Jodi. I felt quilt. Realize this is not my problem. Robert needs understanding.
2/2217
My Birthday!
What type of Behavior
Consequences of situation or peoples feelings
Trigger
Out of her sorroundings, my house.
Behavior
Watched movie, no understanding of the movie, kept getting bad guys and good guys mixed up.
not a big deal, all and all a pretty good day.
Consequences
spent nearly 4 hours with George. Chance for mom to get more familiar with our home.
2/23/17
while putting up the groceries,
Mom said thats all the little tomatoes they had.
I said it is a cute container. She placed them in the fridge.
about hour later, mom said
they didn't have any little tomatoes.
2/24/17
coke puzzle very difficult. keeps on trucking on it.
not a quitter.
since she finished her book,
doing her suduko activity book more
Watched the same movie we watched movie we watched the other night
2 Ice creams
went to get her meds after she took them, about hour later.
I didn't sleep well, only 4 hours, stress levels up. took a 2 hour nap. Felt such quilt. If something would have happened while I napped, I would never have been able to forgive myself.
2/25/17 slept all night. so good. Mom said the phone rang. telemarketer. I Never heard the phone rang. Wondered if it really did ring. Small mishaps,
2/26/17
.
I Missed church, mom asked why didn't you go to church?
Then she said, oh that's right you never did go on Sundays.( I have always gone on Sundays until recently, February.
Asked mom to go with me to my house.
She didn't want to, talked to her about short term memory loss.
I could not leave her alone for her own safety.
She of course didn't remember any of the things I brought up.
Teapot, pan of water, and a few other examples.
Made me sick to my stomach, to have to tell her, these things.
I know she won't remember what I told her in a few days, maybe tomorrow.
That I would never be able to forgive myself if something happened to her.
I asked her if she knew that. She said yes. I tried to be as graceful, and comforting as I could.
She wants to make a dr appt. I said I think that would be a good idea.
it was going to be me or someone else would have to come over.
This made me sick to my stomach.
Mom started stiffening up and shaking. Headache.
Walked to PO. mom insisted on bringing home junk mail.
She was going through mail, reading junk, I reminded her that was a scam. We looked it up.
She tore it up and through it away. Not happily though.
Reminded her about her night pills. As she did not fill her meds for the week. I knew she did not take her pm meds. She said, yes she took them. I reminded her she didn't fill her med box, and she didn't take them at dinner. She had not taken them yet. She then took them. Usually if she hasn't taken them by ice cream time. I say oh, that's right I need to take my meds. Which will get her to check to see if she took hers.
3/4/17
went to Chehalis first time since sept?
3/5/17
mom meds Saturday night and Sunday morning not taken
3/6/17 told me I should go home. Told her I stay for her safety.
We had this conversation recently. I know she doesn't want to hear it.
She insisted, I told her she has short term memory loss. She said she your right, I don't want to hear about it.
3/7/17 No Senior center. Didn't want to go.
3/10/17 (I was having a panic attack, anxiety. In the car) mom was taking the tape off her tabs.
I leaned in by her and said be careful you don't take the back tape off the tabs.
She yelled at me. Don't yell at me.. We had to go back to her house
and relax, told her i didn't yell. I was sorry , if she thought I did. She apologized.
We talked about options for me going home once in a while, hire someone come over, set up a camera, where I could check on her.
We talked about her memory loss. explained a few things, including driving. She became very upset when I told her she couldn't drive anymore.
Told her we had made a dr appt. Asked her if she wants to see a specialist. Or let the specialist tell dr hanson and he can tell her.
Frank had passed away. went to spend time with george. Mom hardly spoke to me.
3/11/17
telling Lou for 2nd time on phone about coco cola puzzle we are doing.
she remembered we went to our house. Didn't remember going to the Library or drives. Said it hadn't snowed in a long time. we just had fresh snow 2 days ago.
3/12/17 went to church at 11:00 Theresa called mom.
3/13/17
Mom has been getting really snippy with me.
Doesn't understand why
Trigger
Behavior
Consequences
Consequences of situation or peoples feelings
Actions to change behavior
1/20/17
Watching Potus sworn in.
She watched it 3 times over like it was the first time she ever saw it.
1/21/17
mom realizes we have new president
Trigger
2/4/2017
Making Tea
Reading directions
Behavior
Mom put water in a pan to boil it for tea.
Saw the pan on the stove, half the water boiled out.
Asked mom if she put the pan of water on.
Consequences
Mom embarress
Me fearful to leave mom for any amount of time.
Quilt for not realizing she used the stove vs microwave
Trigger 2/4/17
bad day?
Behavior frustrated,angry,
Consequences
Redirected to other things.
Calmed down.
What triggers hostility?
What type of Behavior
Consequences of situation or peoples feelings
Actions to change behavior
Trigger 2/5/17
bad day
Behavior
Confused, repeating things
Consequences
Stayed home from church
Missed it.
Mom didn’t know it was Sunday.
What triggers hostility?
What type of Behavior
Consequences of situation or peoples feelings
Trigger
I didn't go sit down with mom and Betty right away.
Talking to Jackie.
Behavior
Mom
Inrtrupted the grace at senior center
Consequences
She didn't notice it
Me slightly embarrassed
Helen smiled at me, brought. Comfort to me.
Answered mom. Then we all prayed
Trigger 2/21/17
mom woke up feeling sick, diahrea and nausea, i did notice she was
dizzy.
Consequences
She ate breakfast, took her meds, left her banana, decided to go back to bed.
When she woke back up, began to make her breakfast again. Sat down started eating
figured I would watch, not say anything. She went to take her pills. I had to show
her that she had already took them when she got up earlier.
Showed her pill container.
Called Jodi, discussed the purchase of a camera. Not to spy or babysit, To make sure that mom is safe when I go to the PO, Store or Senior Center to pick up meals.
She was onboard, and offered to purchase it.
Mom is so independent. Love that about her. I made promises to mom,
I intend to keep them. No Nursing or senior living HOME, No Reminding her that she has Alz. Remember that she will always loves me.
I had to go to the senior center,
to pick up dinner. Mom was sleeping, Figured i would go home for a few minutes.
Called Robert asked him if he would be willing to call mom. Told him she is not
feeling well. Didn't want to leave her by herself. If he could talk to her
than I would feel better about her safety. he accused me of deceiving mom.
I explained its getting harder to leave her home alone.
He was offended, that I was treating mom like a child. I explained that mom
has alz. I was not treating her like a child, Making sure she is safe. I asked if her was aware of that mom has alz? even knowing I had told him in the past.
guess rob, reached out to Jodi. told her He was not going to take my word that
mom has alz. she has never acted unusual on the phone, with him.
yesterday, mom asked rob the same questions that she asked the day before.
Unerstanding;;;;
Robert has not gripped reality. may never truly accept moms diagnoses. Not my best choice to call him. Caused havoc on Jodi. I felt quilt. Realize this is not my problem. Robert needs understanding.
2/2217
My Birthday!
What type of Behavior
Consequences of situation or peoples feelings
Trigger
Out of her sorroundings, my house.
Behavior
Watched movie, no understanding of the movie, kept getting bad guys and good guys mixed up.
not a big deal, all and all a pretty good day.
Consequences
spent nearly 4 hours with George. Chance for mom to get more familiar with our home.
2/23/17
while putting up the groceries,
Mom said thats all the little tomatoes they had.
I said it is a cute container. She placed them in the fridge.
about hour later, mom said
they didn't have any little tomatoes.
2/24/17
coke puzzle very difficult. keeps on trucking on it.
not a quitter.
since she finished her book,
doing her suduko activity book more
Watched the same movie we watched movie we watched the other night
2 Ice creams
went to get her meds after she took them, about hour later.
I didn't sleep well, only 4 hours, stress levels up. took a 2 hour nap. Felt such quilt. If something would have happened while I napped, I would never have been able to forgive myself.
2/25/17 slept all night. so good. Mom said the phone rang. telemarketer. I Never heard the phone rang. Wondered if it really did ring. Small mishaps,
Didn't understand insurance company
Misplaced check book,
ate 2 ice cream
was going to take her pills 2 twice.
2/26/17
.
I Missed church, mom asked why didn't you go to church?
Then she said, oh that's right you never did go on Sundays.( I have always gone on Sundays until recently, February.
Asked mom to go with me to my house.
She didn't want to, talked to her about short term memory loss.
I could not leave her alone for her own safety.
She of course didn't remember any of the things I brought up.
Teapot, pan of water, and a few other examples.
Made me sick to my stomach, to have to tell her, these things.
I know she won't remember what I told her in a few days, maybe tomorrow.
That I would never be able to forgive myself if something happened to her.
I asked her if she knew that. She said yes. I tried to be as graceful, and comforting as I could.
She wants to make a dr appt. I said I think that would be a good idea.
it was going to be me or someone else would have to come over.
This made me sick to my stomach.
Mom started stiffening up and shaking. Headache.
Walked to PO. mom insisted on bringing home junk mail.
She was going through mail, reading junk, I reminded her that was a scam. We looked it up.
She tore it up and through it away. Not happily though.
Reminded her about her night pills. As she did not fill her meds for the week. I knew she did not take her pm meds. She said, yes she took them. I reminded her she didn't fill her med box, and she didn't take them at dinner. She had not taken them yet. She then took them. Usually if she hasn't taken them by ice cream time. I say oh, that's right I need to take my meds. Which will get her to check to see if she took hers.
3/4/17
went to Chehalis first time since sept?
3/5/17
mom meds Saturday night and Sunday morning not taken
3/6/17 told me I should go home. Told her I stay for her safety.
We had this conversation recently. I know she doesn't want to hear it.
She insisted, I told her she has short term memory loss. She said she your right, I don't want to hear about it.
3/7/17 No Senior center. Didn't want to go.
3/10/17 (I was having a panic attack, anxiety. In the car) mom was taking the tape off her tabs.
I leaned in by her and said be careful you don't take the back tape off the tabs.
She yelled at me. Don't yell at me.. We had to go back to her house
and relax, told her i didn't yell. I was sorry , if she thought I did. She apologized.
We talked about options for me going home once in a while, hire someone come over, set up a camera, where I could check on her.
We talked about her memory loss. explained a few things, including driving. She became very upset when I told her she couldn't drive anymore.
Told her we had made a dr appt. Asked her if she wants to see a specialist. Or let the specialist tell dr hanson and he can tell her.
Frank had passed away. went to spend time with george. Mom hardly spoke to me.
3/11/17
telling Lou for 2nd time on phone about coco cola puzzle we are doing.
she remembered we went to our house. Didn't remember going to the Library or drives. Said it hadn't snowed in a long time. we just had fresh snow 2 days ago.
3/12/17 went to church at 11:00 Theresa called mom.
3/13/17
Mom has been getting really snippy with me.
Doesn't understand why
Trigger
Behavior
Consequences
